So for the last few days, Zayneb has been talking about wanting to wear hijab. Now mind you, she's not yet 10 (next month).
Now ever since my girls were little, I wanted to raise them to eventually want to wear the hijab. That it would be something they aspire to do when they came of age. Alhamdulillah it seems that is the case here, but I feel she is too young and doesn't really understand the hijab. We had a talk about it.
She thinks of it as a cool accessory. She doesn't get that it's permanent. When I reminder her that, come summer, she won't wear short sleeves or a bathing suit. She said, Summer is months away! It's clear she doesn't understand the reasons or importance of it.
I asked her what her reasons for wanting to wear it were. She said so she could be "kebeera" (Grown up) I told her she has the rest of her life to be grown up. That childhood is a limited time offer and that she should enjoy being a kid because she's not yet a young lady.
While trying to convince her that she's not yet obligated nor ready to wear the hijab I worried about going too far in the other direction. I know that her wanting to is a good sign, but I didn't want to go too heavy into how it's hot at times and a responsibility. I didn't want to make her hate it, you know?
Anyway she asked to wear it just for today. I figured it would be a good way for her to try it out and see how she feels about it. I told her, OK, but if you want to wear it tonight, you have to wear it for the whole time. So I helped her with her scarf and she was really happy.

So we went out to Mcd's to meet Asiya after about 15 minutes she complained it was hot. Naturally, she played on the play structure there and it kept shifting and falling. We kept pinning and re-pinning it. She wanted to take it off. I asked her, Zayneb, Who begged and cried to wear it? You did. Stick to your decision for today. Eventually she was down to the Amira underscarf and that was more comfortable.

She's still asking to wear the Amira style all the time but I still don't feel she's ready. I think hijab is something you do once and for all. When she's old enough and ready to accept all the requirements and responsibilities of wearing it, I'll be happy to go hijab shopping with her and help her match scarves to her outfits and all that. For now, I think she's still a little girl.
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